If the saying, “Clothes don’t make the man” is true, why are they so many that insist that it does?
About every other weekend or so while perusing Facebook or Twitter, I come across at least one guy who is getting ready to go out for the evening and will post a status update and sometimes with a photo with the following startling claim:
Getting my grown man on.
Have you seen it before or are you yourself guilty of making such claims? I’ve seen and heard it more than I would like to recall.
But, what does it mean exactly? Are you slipping on your big boy pants, sticking out your chest and bragging to the world that you are a man? Is it like jumping into a phone booth and changing from Clark Kent to SuperMan?
If that is the case, I am sure that I won’t be alone in my thoughts when I say, that is rather disheartening.
Being a grown man is not something you can slip on like a pair of cashmere socks and kick off when you’re ready to disrobe and relax. It stems from personal experience, gained knowledge and is reflected in your actions.
It is a 24-7-365 (sometimes 366) mentality. There’s no on-off switch nor should there be. It would be an exhausting feat if there was.
The items in this list should not go without saying but just in case:
Appearance: Clothes are well-fitted, possibly tailor-made. Personal Grooming is a must. Cleanliness is next to Smart, Sexy and Edginess. Nicely trimmed in regards to nails and hair, unless you’re bald. Most importantly, one with correct posture is deemed as strong-willed and strong-minded. Keeps in mind the old saying: Clothes don’t make the man, the man makes the clothes.
Relationships: Whether it’s personal or professional, always respect the others involved. Be able to communicate effective without profanity and unnecessary loudness.
Health: Stay atop of all health exams. Eating well. And FYI, coffee, beer and candy bars are not part of the nutritional food pyramid. Exercise is a vital part of your daily (or almost daily) regimen.
Career: Regardless if employed by someone else or taking the entrepreneurial route, professionalism is key which includes but not limited to: meeting deadlines, producing high quality work and always exceeding expectations.
Intelligence: Always learn and put one’s self in a position to continue to do. Building a substantial library of works that increase brain productivity. Also study other cultures as a means for global awareness.
Finance: Know the importance and rewards of investing and saving. Extensively research items before purchasing large items. Be aware of credit history.
Life: Takes responsibility for actions. Abides by laws. Understands the importance of seeking a spiritual balance.
Now you have a decision to make.
Do you want to step up and embody the requirements it takes to be a grown man which includes the above protocol?
Or, would you rather move through life as a poser, a perpetrator, a fake, a phony and an outright liar who will eventually be shunned for your failed attempt?
The choice is yours and I urge you make the right one.
Profile: LEX Black
What about adding this too: Grown men do not play house they get married; grown men do not seek woman to take care of them; grown men except responsibilities; grown men know when they make mistakes and when to correct them. This is just to name a few things. Kimberlyn Rice 2013. GROWN Men!